October 1, 2013 by aljakatz
How do you know when to let go? When do you let your kids make decisions for themselves? I’m not talking about totally letting go but letting go enough so that they feel good about themselves and you feel good about stepping back. Is that even possible… for a Mom to feel good about stepping back?
I’m here to tell you it IS possible! I have done it and I have survived!
Last week my son went to visit a college campus. (Yes, I have a high school senior!!) He did it all by himself. I had to step back, jump back, fly back… whatever it was but it was HUGE! I was ridiculously proud of him and ridiculously scared. What was I scared of you may wonder? I was scared of all of the unknown. I was scared of all of the how’s, why’s, what if’s and then some. But, all that said, I let him go. I let go. I did it and he did great! That was last week.
Fast forward to today. My sweet daughter let me know that she didn’t feel well. She needed me. (That’s what she wrote – I’m not kidding.) Naturally, I offered to come pick her up at school. She decided to tough it out. I had to trust her judgment and let go. I wanted to run get her and make it better but instead I backed off and let her decide what was best for her. Ugh, we just want our kids to be okay.
Parenting is hard! It doesn’t come with instructions and all we can do is our best. We hope we don’t screw up and screw up our kids. So… we let go when the time is right. I guess I’m at that “letting go” time in my parenting life. It is not easy. The end result, however, is. The end result is you having successfully raised a child to depend on himself or herself. That is amazing and a huge accomplishment! Be proud of you!
Happy October, Everyone!
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